Marriage is the union of two people who have promised each other eternal love. Regardless of how the ceremony is conducted or the religion of the two people involved, this is a vow made by two people that they will come together through thick and thin and, if possible, beyond physical life and material. Marriage must be taken with the utmost seriousness and sincerity and must be deliberated a thousand times before either party decides to give it a try. Marriage is not just an investment of emotions, but also an investment of money, so you should think a million times before you jump in. There are those who jump in without looking and end up with a failed marriage as a result. If that happens, how do you save it? How do you save a failed marriage?

To save a failed marriage, you must think clearly. Don’t panic and let your logic take control of you. If you let yourself be dominated by your emotions, you will make impulsive decisions that could make your situation even worse.

The first thing you have to do is go back to basics. Ask yourself what went wrong, did I do my part? I’m pretty sure when he started his life as husband and wife, things were going pretty well. She saw you as her Knight in shining armor and she was your Helen of Troy. You need to retrace your steps, look in the mirror and do a self-analysis. If you think you already know what went wrong, talk to her and ask if things can still be fixed. For once, you need to throw your selfish tendencies out the window and be a “real man.” Real men are never afraid to admit their flaws and do something about it. There are also cases where your partner may be at fault and you were the one who initiated the dissolution of the marriage. If you can experience a change of heart, ask your partner if they are still willing to give it a try. Establish what you see wrong and establish the ground rules.

The next thing to do to save a failed marriage is to get engaged. In other words, set expectations. Establish what you will aim to accomplish to bring the spark back to the marriage, and also establish what your partner needs to accomplish. You do this, and maybe there is still hope of saving your marriage.