Women’s UCS recognition for male swingers.
Whether a man is single or part of a swinger couple, he will need to recognize the female UCS in swinger lifestyle encounters with single women or swinger couples.
One very important consideration to keep in mind at the outset is that it is the UCS “groups” that we need to be aware of. Isolated occurrences of UCS do not necessarily have any meaning on their own. So the rule here is to patiently observe the signals and only give importance to them when they are transmitted as part of a behavior pattern. Keeping an eye out for these UCS groups is probably the most important observation to make during the early stages of a first time swinger date or when making new contacts at a swinger party etc.
eye contact
The UCS that everyone is familiar with is eye contact. A consistent lack of eye contact is strong evidence that a woman is not interested in a man, but it would be unusual for any woman to maintain eye contact throughout a conversation, so she remembers to ignore isolated incidences anyway. Probably the most conclusive indication that a woman is not interested in a man is when she refuses to return his eye contact every time he looks into her eyes. When this continues to happen, it is almost certainly time to end the meeting.
On the other hand, the more eye contact a woman gives and the longer the contact lasts, the more certain she becomes that swinging with her is a real possibility. Another strong indication is when she looks away with the blink of an eyelash. Perhaps the last sign of eye contact is her dilated pupils. If they are dilated, chances are she is very interested and already aroused by the prospect of having sex. Remember that all of these eye contact cues apply in situations where the woman is part of a swinger couple, as well as when she meets single women on her own.
The UCS of lip and mouth gestures
A woman’s lips and mouth are used to send UCS to indicate sexual desire and intent. A man should watch for signs like lip licking and tongue movements. But once again, it is a set of signs and not an isolated incident which means that the meeting has reached an appropriate time to try to move to the next stage.
Shake your hair – another UCS
Women shake their hair as another example of UCS Here again, care must be taken to observe the signal. A single blow can be the consequence of an itch. It’s the repetitive movement that counts. When this occurs in a swinger lifestyle situation, it is almost always an overtly flirtatious gesture and a very strong indication of sexual attraction.
Shoes and maneuvering feet
Men should be vigilant in hanging and maneuvering shoes. This is another powerful and feminine UCS. During any type of swinger lifestyle encounter, women who use this maneuver are signaling to the man that they are comfortable with him. But it is also likely that they indicate more than this. Sometimes the maneuver itself goes further, resulting in the partial or even total removal of a shoe. When this is the case, you are probably indicating your desire to strip for the man. When this occurs on a date or at a swinger party, the man receiving the signal must respond quickly by moving directly to the physical contact stage.
caressing objects
A common female UCS as feelings of sexual attraction increase is the use of practical objects, such as wine glasses, to convey desire. Sensually caressing the stem of the glass is probably the most common example at parties, dinners or other gatherings where drinks are part of the event. However, all sorts of other useful items can be used this way, so it’s always worth keeping an eye out for this sign.
male SCU
In general, males give less unconscious communication signals than females, although some UCS are common to both sexes. Eye contact is probably the most shared. When a man makes direct and prolonged eye contact with a woman, he is likely indicating her attraction to her. In swinger lifestyle situations, such as on a date or when socializing at a sex party, a man who continually avoids eye contact is likely to feel uncomfortable or nervous. Unfortunately, men who don’t address this issue are unlikely to be considered good swing partners by swinging women or couples.
The posture of a man
Men can indicate their true feelings towards women by their posture. Adopting an open stance with your shoulders back and your head up is likely to indicate interest and self-confidence. The posture also suggests dominance and strength, and these are the masculine qualities that most women in the swinger scene find most attractive.
Another aspect of male posture is its direction. A man who is sitting with her upper body pointing towards the woman is sending a signal that he is attracted to her. In contrast, the man who constantly turns his back or turns his upper body, legs, or face away from the woman is sending a signal of disinterest or discomfort. Even if he is interested and just uncomfortable, the conclusion will be that he would not be much fun as a swinger playmate.
male grooming
The hair movement described above is an example of female grooming. But the males also preen. Any type of “appearance enhancement” maneuver counts as grooming. For example, a man on a swinger date for the first time might spend his time fiddling with his tie or picking non-existent specks out of his jacket. These are male UCS that indicate attraction to women.
Swingers need to get the balance right
Couples and singles who are new to the swinging lifestyle need to understand that UCS is an important aspect of human social and sexual interaction. Without being aware of this, it is surprisingly easy to end even the best swinger parties without having enjoyed its fruits. On the other hand, swingers should be careful not to rush into reading too much into an isolated UCS. A swinger must find a balance between these two extremes. The way to achieve this balance is to look for repeating groups or patterns of UCS and observe them in combination with a lot of good listening.