Are you angry and frustrated or negative most of the time? Are you unable to have a good and fulfilling relationship because you are afraid or filled with negative emotions? Then, let’s explore some tips for changing your attitude and improving your relationship.
1. Make up your mind! You must decide that you not only want to change your attitude, but that you will change it. Awaken to the understanding that you are not a victim of circumstances or your emotions and that you can change your attitude. It is in your power to do it.
2. Let the hurts of the past go! Whatever happened to you is in the past and nothing you do today can change it. Release people who have hurt you deeply in the past. Don’t keep repeating the words they said or believing the hurtful things they said or did. If it’s already happened, no amount of outbursts of anger or worry will make it go away. If your wounds have been very deep, you may need professional help to let them go.
3. Stop giving yourself permission to be negative. Changing your attitude means that you stop giving yourself permission to be negative. I know the current thinking is that you should say and do exactly what you feel and people should just accept it and deal with it, but if you want your relationship to be better, that attitude can’t work. Decide that it is not okay for you to be abusive, critical, or negative toward the man in your life. Go through all the scenarios where you have been negative and see how you have given yourself permission to be negative. His reasoning probably followed the thought that if he was going to behave in a certain way, then he would be allowed to retaliate by being nasty and hurtful. He must withdraw that permission and decide that no matter how he acts, he will not react negatively. You will be in control of his attitude and not of him or the circumstances. This change will take time and vigilance, as he will be tempted to go back to his old ways.
4. Change your thoughts! Changing your attitudes means changing your thoughts. If you keep thinking about how it hurt you or how unfair life is, guess what happens? You become negative as poisonous negative thoughts find expression in your life. Realize that life is a wonderful privilege that you can only live once and to be unhappy and dissatisfied is to waste a once in a lifetime gift. You owe it to yourself to have a happy and fulfilling relationship!
5. Have a grateful heart. A grateful heart will change your negative attitude to a positive one. If you think about all that is good and wonderful in your life, then you will be happy. Try it now… think of something you love about your man or your life… don’t you feel better? Abort negative thoughts and focus instead on the good in him and in your life. Of course, you shouldn’t deny the negative, but most of your energy and time should be spent on the positive that is in your life.
6. Change what you can. Face the things in your life that weigh you down and cause your thoughts to become angry and frustrated. Does your weight weigh you down? Do thoughts about your finances make any day dark? Then find ways to deal with those things that you can deal with. You should do the best you can to deal with the problem, but you should also give yourself a break. You may never be a wasted size8, but you can be a healthy size16, so be realistic in your change efforts
Changing your attitude so that you can change your relationship is within your power and reach. If you put into practice the 6 tips given you will see a change in your attitude.