Are you looking for tips to save a marriage because you feel dead inside? Many people get to the point where they can’t remember the last time they felt happy in their marriage.

I was in the same boat actually. I got to a point where I was having such a troubled marriage that my self-esteem was rock bottom, and I basically started to feel numb and stuck.

When my wife and I first got married, we were so full of life and so excited to be together and then I guess reality sets in, and then all of a sudden the excitement kind of wears off.

You are left with the empty feeling of monotony. And when there are constant fights and disagreements on top of all of that, it’s even more painful, and makes you feel even more dead inside.

This happens often, and after we worked through a lot of our issues, my wife admitted that she had felt the same way for years, too. And I thought it was so exciting, how could that have happened? LOL

I can laugh now, but I know what you’re going through is no laughing matter. It hurts and can lead to a spiritual spiral that plunges right into deep depression if we’re not careful and don’t bite it in the butt! So let’s look for tips to save a marriage that will get us out of all this pessimism.

What I quickly discovered was this.

Because we are 50% of the marriage, sometimes we forget about our own half of what’s going on, and instead of working on ourselves, we put so much effort into working on the marriage as a whole, or worse, our spouse. .

In other words, if he did the things that would change his end of the bargain, then the marriage would be, at least in his eyes, and from his perspective, fifty percent better. That’s because that’s the part you CAN control.

The other key to fixing a troubled marriage, where you feel dead inside, is to make sure you’re viewing a marriage through a paradigm that serves you rather than drains you.

We often see a marriage from our own perception that it is not how things really are, and usually certainly not through the same perception of our spouse. That’s when the confusion arises, and the assumption begins to take flight, dragging the marriage down like a sinking ship.

In other words, you can ONLY change your marriage by seeing the marriage in new ways (perception) and therefore changing yourself (or your 50%) of the marriage. This will not lead to a perfect marriage because at the moment you cannot control the actions of your spouse.

But ask yourself this… if you could improve your marriage by at least 50% this year, would that be something you’d be willing to work on? Most people would jump at that.

And of course I say at least because in most cases… in my marriage too… something happens where the other spouse starts to follow your lead and also starts to improve when they see you improve yourself. .

I hope you take these marriage-saving tips to heart because they represent exactly what changed my own marriage.