Hello my friends,

To quote a famous song that was sung by Barbra Streisand and Neil Diamond, the title says it all. The letter is as follows:

don’t bring me flowers

Don’t you sing me love songs

you hardly talk to me anymore

when you walk through the door

At the end of the day

I remember when

you couldn’t wait to love me

used to hate leaving me

Now after loving me late at night

when it’s good for you

and you feel good

Well you just turn around

And you turn off the light

And you don’t bring me flowers anymore

used to be so natural

to talk about forever

But ‘used to be’ doesn’t count anymore

they just lay down on the floor

Until we sweep them away

And baby I remember

All the things you taught me

I learned to laugh

And I learned to cry

Well I learned to love

I even learned to lie

You would think that I could learn

how to say goodbye

Why don’t you bring me flowers anymore

There are so many out there who can not only read these lyrics, but have LIVED them. The song itself talks about the love that once was. We have all been there. We can listen to love songs and feel our hearts swell because we have valued both people and people in the roles they once played in our lives. People come and go, but the memories in our minds cannot overcome the feelings in our hearts.

No one can write exactly how it feels to be heartbroken. The feeling is devastating, cold and very lonely. The feeling you have NEVER felt creeps in and you begin to slowly fade into the shadows of depression. His friends and family begin to worry and he tends to wonder if he will ever be happy again. When your heart is broken, a task as simple as smiling seems almost impossible. Looking at your feet and thinking that it was once a cozy bed for two can be overwhelming. Tears form and slowly find themselves caressing your cheeks as they silently fall off your chin and onto your shoes.

Sometimes the darkness comes too soon. We tend to let the memories of yesterday take over our present and ruin our future. Let the treadmill begin because we’re not going anywhere emotionally.

Now sit back and relax… this is where you are going to change your life. I can 100% guarantee that if you have an open mind and a willing heart, you can not only get “YOU” back, but you can become the person you were meant to be. We all have a purpose, we are all destined for something great NO MATTER HOW YOU FEEL NOW.

Let’s break this down…

The word “NOW” means the present. In the present, you MAY feel horrible, but something is likely to happen.

1. You will feel better over time

2. You’re going to feel BETTER THAN GREAT over time.

Regardless of how you look at it, you’re going to be fine. We all know the No Contact rule, we know what others have done to get their ex back, we know the success stories, and we know those who have become wise despite their best efforts to get someone back. Your life is what YOU make of it. NOT SOMEONE ELSE. If you base your happiness on someone else and they leave, what have you gained? Where is your happiness, where is your victory? Where is your self-confidence? In short, YOU GAVE IT AWAY!!

What a lot of people don’t realize is that MOST OF THE TIME, THERE IS NO ACTION involved in getting a lover back.

**PLEASE READ THAT AGAIN**

‘MOST OF THE TIME, THERE IS NO ACTION involved in getting a lover back.’

Let me explain…

I know what you’re thinking. You want to tell me that for not doing anything NOTHING is going to happen and I am here to tell you that you are wrong. Depending on the love bond that was created when they were together, NOT THE TIME involved, the love bond itself… this will be the key to getting the lover back from him.

If you want to see it this way, ask yourself these questions and be 100% honest: Feel free to write down your answers.

1. Did I give my ex the respect he deserved?

2. Even though my lover said he loved me, did he constantly show it?

3. Did I give my lover the space he needed?

4. Did I encourage my lover to be the best they could be?

5. Was I good at listening to my lover?

6. Would I consider my lover my best friend?

7. If my lover and I disagree, do we agree to disagree?

8. Did I give myself to be loved by them?

9. Do you think that You + Your Ex = Your Happiness?

10. Do you know that you will be okay no matter what happens?

Recovering a love begins with you. I don’t care what your friends say, LOVE costs nothing. Do you think for a MOMENT that a dozen roses are going to bring your ex back? Or an expensive gift? A statement of change? A ring? A false promise that you will keep for maybe 2 months? A proposal?

An honest answer “NO!!” The reason is that they want YOU…NOT gifts. You were amazing enough to meet you at the beginning. were you acting Were you on your best behavior “just because?” When you said you loved them, were you serious or were you just trying to keep them with you?

People break up for various reasons, but the main one is simple.

Does this sound familiar to you?

“They began to change and act differently”

You were born as an individual and you will die as such. You are a separate person from the one you love. You can be happy with yourself and NOT put that pressure on another person. Have you ever put a crybaby? Anyone who doesn’t want to do this or that? No matter what you want to do to make them happy or please them, it just won’t happen. It’s because they don’t value themselves. Run away as FOREST GUMP as fast as you can! You will hit your head against the wall if you try this one.

Most of the comments and emails I get ask questions like “What do you think of them?” The answer is “WHAT DO YOU KNOW?” We are not mind readers. WE HAVE NO IDEA what others are thinking. What do you know 100%? Do you know what YOU are doing and what YOU are thinking?

*Important*

GO WITH WHAT YOU KNOW… NOT WHAT YOU GUESS OR HEAR!

I don’t care if you talk to your ex’s parents… (bad idea) GO WITH WHAT YOU KNOW!

If you are assuming something, let it go. Tell yourself it’s ONLY a guess and let it go. It doesn’t solve anything and you’ll worry about making HUGE mistakes in the long run.

Take the focus off your ex and put it on you. NOT SELFISH!! You can’t do ANYTHING (one action) to get your ex back. Leave them alone and by doing so, you are actually creating a loving experience.

This is why:

Have you ever had a breakup and out of desperation all you want your ex to do is LISTEN to you because you think you can explain why or you assume you can talk him out of breaking up. The more you call, walk by, follow your ex to work, text or email, the more and more they’ll be looking at you (SOMEONE THEY’RE STILL IN LOVE WITH) CRAZY! You didn’t leave them alone when all you had to do was turn their attention away from them and focus on yourself. What you’ve done is create a BETTER reason to break up with you. YOU JUST VALIDATE YOUR EX!! ARRGHH!!

Has someone you love ever told you “PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE and GO AWAY!” Unfortunately, you did it to yourself. Do you know what an urban myth is? It is something that you may have heard but do not know if it is true or not. Well let me tell you the TRUTH about something.

**Listen carefully**

THE TEN BEST WAYS TO NEVER GET YOUR EX BACK!

1. Menacing

2.Beg

3. stem

4. Sending too many emails or texts (let it go… it doesn’t solve anything)

5. Promises of change

6. Visits or phone calls while intoxicated

7. Call your friends or parents! NO WAY! DON’T EVEN GO THERE!

8. Insult or yell

9. Drugs

10. Hurting yourself in an effort to get sympathy from your ex.

Ladies and gentlemen, I cannot express that this is NOT about them. It’s about you; what you do matters. When I say “do” I mean how to help yourself. If your ex loves you and you get over it, how can you be wrong? I’m NOT saying they’ll come back, but your chances almost triple if you do. Don’t ask your friends about your ex, ask them what you can do to improve. Let them help you. You can do it! Love as limitless.

Take responsibility for your OWN actions. You have no control over your ex NOTHING! NO! You can change or do nothing to change their minds. If you keep waiting for someone who doesn’t know what he wants… KEEP GOING!!

Have you ever stood in line where you were ordering food and the person in front of you was undecided? You get angry? It bothers you? Do you wait and wait and wait making excuses and time passes slowly? I SERIOUSLY doubt it, please MOVE TO A DIFFERENT LINE. STOP making excuses to others and get up and be YOU! Let them worry about them. It sounds a bit ugly, but you can’t just sit around waiting for a train at the bus station! It will never come!

In closing, I want to say this to all of you who are heartbroken. I say a prayer for you every night. I am here because I care and God has given me a purpose. I have the ability to do AMAZING things and you also have the idiot inside of you. There are HUNDREDS of talented people who have been where you are on this wonderful forum who are here to help you when you’re feeling down, for free. I was once like you. I got my ex back. He loved her back to me. It was a hard road, but it wasn’t until I let him go that we got back together. We usually find what we are looking for when we are NOT looking for it.

You have the potential to do whatever your heart desires. You have to make it happen. You can’t expect the world to give it to you, but it’s there for the taking if you want it bad enough. People come and go in your life. Stay with those who have a positive impact. We become the company we keep. Surround yourself with success and you will inherit that ability because you will want it bad enough. The same goes for this forum, surround yourself with loving and caring people from all over the world and one day… you won’t take advice, you’ll be the one giving it.

I wish you the best. God bless you and reach for the stars!

YOU CAN DO IT…believe in yourself!